“送(song)(song)(song)禮(li)別(bie)失禮(li)”。送(song)(song)(song)禮(li)的(de)最(zui)高境界是對方不(bu)覺得你在送(song)(song)(song)禮(li)，而是在回報。“不(bu)送(song)(song)(song)最(zui)貴的(de)，只送(song)(song)(song)最(zui)對”。送(song)(song)(song)禮(li)其(qi)實就是送(song)(song)(song)利(li)(li)，是送(song)(song)(song)雙方的(de)利(li)(li)益(yi)，也就是行賄(hui)受賄(hui)的(de)一種手段(duan)。

　　過去人(ren)們(men)提倡的(de)(de)(de)(de)送(song)禮(li)(li)(li)(li)(li)方式(shi)是(shi)(shi)(shi)“千里送(song)鵝(e)毛，禮(li)(li)(li)(li)(li)輕情意重”，如今，很多過年送(song)禮(li)(li)(li)(li)(li)已經(jing)不(bu)是(shi)(shi)(shi)親朋好(hao)友之間的(de)(de)(de)(de)“小禮(li)(li)(li)(li)(li)”，而是(shi)(shi)(shi)為(wei)(wei)了(le)權和(he)錢的(de)(de)(de)(de)“大禮(li)(li)(li)(li)(li)”，這(zhe)種(zhong)(zhong)不(bu)正(zheng)常的(de)(de)(de)(de)“大禮(li)(li)(li)(li)(li)”不(bu)再是(shi)(shi)(shi)一(yi)種(zhong)(zhong)交流感(gan)情的(de)(de)(de)(de)方式(shi)，而是(shi)(shi)(shi)傪(zan)雜著各種(zhong)(zhong)各樣(yang)的(de)(de)(de)(de)利益交易(yi)。正(zheng)因為(wei)(wei)如此，過年送(song)禮(li)(li)(li)(li)(li)對很多人(ren)來說是(shi)(shi)(shi)一(yi)種(zhong)(zhong)負擔(dan)，成為(wei)(wei)現在(zai)人(ren)們(men)生活的(de)(de)(de)(de)一(yi)種(zhong)(zhong)新的(de)(de)(de)(de)壓力。有(you)的(de)(de)(de)(de)人(ren)為(wei)(wei)了(le)送(song)禮(li)(li)(li)(li)(li)熬費(fei)苦心。結(jie)果(guo)鬧出(chu)很多笑話，也產生了(le)一(yi)種(zhong)(zhong)意想不(bu)到的(de)(de)(de)(de)結(jie)果(guo)。曾經(jing)有(you)一(yi)位(wei)年輕靚麗的(de)(de)(de)(de)機關女(nv)(nv)干部，千里進京送(song)禮(li)(li)(li)(li)(li)，為(wei)(wei)慎重起見，女(nv)(nv)干部提前一(yi)天進京住下(xia)，第二天終于見到要給送(song)禮(li)(li)(li)(li)(li)的(de)(de)(de)(de)領導(dao)(dao)。領導(dao)(dao)倒(dao)是(shi)(shi)(shi)沒有(you)一(yi)點架子，不(bu)過女(nv)(nv)干部畢竟(jing)是(shi)(shi)(shi)頭(tou)一(yi)次到領導(dao)(dao)家送(song)禮(li)(li)(li)(li)(li)，非常緊張。女(nv)(nv)干部緊張的(de)(de)(de)(de)直冒汗，臨出(chu)領導(dao)(dao)家門時，慌里慌張地(di)掏出(chu)購(gou)物卡放在(zai)茶(cha)幾上，回到賓(bin)館(guan)才發現，由(you)于緊張竟(jing)然把賓(bin)館(guan)房卡當(dang)成了(le)購(gou)物卡送(song)給了(le)領導(dao)(dao)，結(jie)果(guo)是(shi)(shi)(shi)領導(dao)(dao)不(bu)安了(le)一(yi)夜(ye)，女(nv)(nv)干部緊張了(le)一(yi)夜(ye)，最后的(de)(de)(de)(de)結(jie)果(guo)是(shi)(shi)(shi)倆人(ren)一(yi)夜(ye)都(dou)沒睡……

　　人(ren)(ren)在(zai)江湖，關(guan)系最重要(yao)(yao)(yao)。維護(hu)各種(zhong)關(guan)系不(bu)能(neng)不(bu)送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)禮(li)(li)(li)(li)。而任(ren)何一種(zhong)禮(li)(li)(li)(li)，說到根上都連著利(li)(li)，正(zheng)是(shi)(shi)所謂的(de)(de)利(li)(li)害關(guan)系。在(zai)任(ren)何社會，任(ren)何時候，“利(li)(li)”和“利(li)(li)”都是(shi)(shi)聯系在(zai)一起的(de)(de)。往往是(shi)(shi)“禮(li)(li)(li)(li)”與(yu)“利(li)(li)”相(xiang)關(guan)，先(xian)“禮(li)(li)(li)(li)”后“利(li)(li)”，有(you)“禮(li)(li)(li)(li)”才(cai)有(you)“利(li)(li)”。道理(li)不(bu)難(nan)懂，難(nan)就難(nan)在(zai)操作上，送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)禮(li)(li)(li)(li)的(de)(de)功夫是(shi)(shi)否到家，主要(yao)(yao)(yao)看送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)禮(li)(li)(li)(li)人(ren)(ren)能(neng)否做到既不(bu)顯山不(bu)露水，又能(neng)打(da)動(dong)人(ren)(ren)心。具有(you)中(zhong)(zhong)(zhong)國特(te)色的(de)(de)送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)禮(li)(li)(li)(li)之風(feng)，充滿(man)辛酸苦辣。在(zai)中(zhong)(zhong)(zhong)國這樣(yang)一個講(jiang)“禮(li)(li)(li)(li)”的(de)(de)大環境下，感恩要(yao)(yao)(yao)送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)禮(li)(li)(li)(li)，求人(ren)(ren)要(yao)(yao)(yao)送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)禮(li)(li)(li)(li)，打(da)點各種(zhong)關(guan)系要(yao)(yao)(yao)送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)禮(li)(li)(li)(li)。如果(guo)你不(bu)講(jiang)“禮(li)(li)(li)(li)”，你就寸步難(nan)行，甚至可能(neng)活在(zai)別人(ren)(ren)的(de)(de)唾沫(mo)星子中(zhong)(zhong)(zhong)。送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)禮(li)(li)(li)(li)的(de)(de)累，收禮(li)(li)(li)(li)的(de)(de)同樣(yang)也累。所以，中(zhong)(zhong)(zhong)國人(ren)(ren)的(de)(de)智慧在(zai)送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)禮(li)(li)(li)(li)上是(shi)(shi)高度發達的(de)(de)。

　　在如今的(de)(de)社會(hui)生活中，會(hui)送(song)禮，會(hui)收(shou)禮已經變成比學識、能力更重(zhong)要的(de)(de)“制(zhi)勝因(yin)素”。說(shuo)到這(zhe)里，感觸特別多。大家常感慨(kai)中國缺乏(fa)創(chuang)造力，缺乏(fa)創(chuang)新精神(shen)。其實一個尊重(zhong)創(chuang)新，鼓(gu)勵創(chuang)新的(de)(de)社會(hui)，必須尊重(zhong)才華勝于(yu)尊重(zhong)關系。只(zhi)有(you)這(zhe)樣，才能把聰明(ming)人(ren)的(de)(de)注意力從(cong)鉆(zhan)營吸引到創(chuang)造上來。讓具有(you)中國特色的(de)(de)送(song)禮不(bu)再成為一種時尚風(feng)氣。